1. Talk through your suicidal thoughts with someone.
It’s fairly normal to think about suicide – lots of people do. It might help to talk about strategies.
What we don’t realize is that, although it feels as if no one would miss us and the world would be a better place if we weren’t there, this is totally screwed up thinking! And this kind of thinking will only change if we are talking with supporters. It’s a bit like the way is advised not to make big decisions just after someone you love dies. People can be in such a stage of shock that they are likely to make hopeless decisions they will regret later.
That’s how it is with suicide: We’re in such a state of trauma from the abuse that we will make daft decisions – and if you are dead there is no chance to change your mind.
2. Learn to accept that depression hits survivors, and suicidal thinking is common in depression. Write yourself a note about that and stick it near the kettle. Near your bottle of tablets (or whatever you have decided to use to kill yourself).
3. On the worst days, remind yourself that you survived the abuse, and you can survive this.
4. Get out into fresh air if you can and search for something beautiful: the moss on a tree, the rainbow of colours of oil in a puddle etc.
Try to distract yourself during this walk and plan something positive to do when you get back home, such as making a fruit smoothie, or watching funny video. You might not feel like watching something funny, but make yourself do it. Remind yourself that your life will get back to being OK. What is happening at the moment is a temporary phase.
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